Archive for June, 2010

Yesterday’s post (June 6, 2010) had the important message that belief is the missing link between merely dreaming and realizing your dreams. Rather than “I’ll believe it when I see it”, reality is “you’ll see it when you believe it”. Today’s post gives you practical tips on stretching your belief systems gently so that you can enrich your life. There is no rush. There is plenty of time.

The importance of belief cannot be stressed enough. We can believe that we will receive a prime parking spot in a busy lot and so we do. We can believe that we can lose 20 lbs. and so we do. We can believe that we can have a loving relationship and so we do. As you look around you, you can see everywhere the evidence of your beliefs: dwelling place, climate control, running water, working appliances, clean clothes, job, friends, intimate associates, enough to eat, good health, recreational activities, entertainment, transportation, to name a very few. All of these things have come to us because we believe that we can have them and so we do. Evidence of a different belief system can be seen in homelessness, difficulty in obtaining food, substance abuse, difficulty in obtaining or keeping employment, lack of transportation, to name a few. The people with this belief system also obtain that which they can believe.

Since our beliefs manifest themselves in physical reality, it makes sense to take care what we believe, for that which we believe we receive. We can also stretch our imaginations by beginning to believe big. Big, of course, is relative to each of us. What is a huge act of faith on one person’s part is a piece of cake for another. Don’t beat yourself up. Don’t judge yourself, just practice stretching your belief, little by little. Sonia, for example, is practicing stretching her belief system by just “being” with the thought that there is no order of difficulty in miracles, that getting a perfect parking space is just as easy as getting one million dollars. As she writes, “…there is a big difference (in my mind) between a million dollars and a parking space. I’m working on the million… Just give me time.” There is plenty of time. There is absolutely no rush. Ruminate on the thought, stay with the thought, become comfortable with the thought. When the thought begins to seem natural, you are ready to move on to the next step, which follows.

Decide on a goal that seems big to you. Write it on a piece of paper. Read it aloud every day, once on arising and once on retiring. Practice feeling what it would be like to actually have your goal in your life. Notice any fear or anxiety that might manifest as increased heart rate or butterflies in your stomach, or even difficulty breathing (extreme fear). Stay with the feelings; they will go away. Little by little, allow the goal to feel like it belongs to you.

When the goal feels like it could be possible for you, write a plan for its achievement on your piece of paper, as well as a date by which the goal is fully in your life. Select a time frame that you are able to believe. Then, every day, do some little thing that moves you toward your goal. If fear overwhelms you, slow down and back up. Ask yourself what you can believe and move forward from there. The important point, though, is to visit your belief every day.

I would like to give you an example from my own life of a seemingly impossible belief that came to fruition. Upon first moving to my home in 1998, there was a huge hole behind the garage that had formerly been the cellar hole for a small barn. Over the years, the former occupants of my current home used to dump their yard waste over the edge, causing an eyesore for the neighbor. To stop this behavior, he bought that cellar hole from the homeowners and stored a crumbling, rusting old truck behind the garage. After I bought the property, my dream was to buy back that piece of land, take that rusted hulk out of the hole, fill it in, and plant grass and shrubs.

For seven years I used to go out and look at that piece of land with the rusting junkmobile. Instead of seeing a hole there, though, I saw green grass and shrubs. I’d just go out and look at it, wondering how to approach the old coot of a neighbor who probably wouldn’t want to sell.

One day, I approached my neighbor at the Post Office. I told him of my offer to buy the land. He said, “Over my dead body!” Already aware that this would probably be his reaction, I laughed and said, “It’s OK. You don’t have to make a decision now, just think about it.” I was willing to wait as long as it took to get what I wanted. When things did not seem to be moving, I approached a friend of my neighbor, asking the friend how to approach my neighbor so that he could agree to this sale. The friend told me that he would speak to my neighbor. Within a week, my neighbor had changed his mind, offered to sell me the property for an exorbitant sum (which I paid), and the property was mine! Now, as I gaze at my (fairly) newly acquired piece of land, rusting hulk of a truck gone, hole filled in, green grass flourishing, surrounded by granite stone walls, I am awestruck at the power of belief. Hang in there, Peeps. It took seven years of a combination of belief and dreaming to achieve my result. I’m living proof that what you can believe you will receive.

In these last few posts, the theme has been that of using your mental imagery and powers of imagination to manifest your heart’s desires. Posts dealing with these ideas are below:

May 9, 2010: “as you dream it, so shall it be”
May 16, 2010: “gratitude is the attitude”
May 18, 2010: “feeling happy now is the fastest way to bring money into your life”
June 1, 2010: “abundance is the fruit of gratitude”
June 4, 2010: “ripples on a pond”
June 5, 2010: “seek with expectation”

It’s all well and good to bring these exalted ideas to you and to exhort you to use them. But what good are they if you cannot believe that good things can be yours? This was brought home to me by one of my faithful readers, Sonia, whose comments have been such an inspiration in themselves. She read the June 5th post in which your Angels remind you that, for them, giving you a good parking space and giving you one million dollars requires exactly the same amount of effort. It is as easy for them to give you one million dollars as it is to provide you with a fantastic parking spot. Her comment was: “…there is a big difference (in my mind) between a million dollars and a parking space. I’m working on the million… Just give me time.”

That excellent comment hit the nail squarely on the head: the missing link is belief. What can we believe? And we can receive only that which we can believe. Doubtless we have all heard the saying, “I’ll believe it when I see it”. What actually happens, though, is as Dr. Wayne Dyer’s book title states, “You’ll see it when you believe it” (see Reading).

We can hear from sermons in church that if we just have faith the size of a mustard seed (which is really tiny), we can move mountains (Matthew 17:20). We can read how Jesus was approached by a centurion whose servant was paralyzed and in great pain, asking Jesus, “…say but the word and my servant will be healed” (Matthew 8:5-13). Or the story of the woman, bleeding for twelve years, who came up behind Jesus and touched the edge of his cloak, thinking to herself, “If I only touch his cloak, I will be healed.” Jesus turned and saw her. “Take heart, daughter, your faith has healed you”, he said; and the woman was healed from that moment (Matthew 9:20-22). We can read in A Course In Miracles that there is no order of difficulty in miracles. All of these wonderful words can excite our imaginations, yet we still feel as if they were not meant for us because we cannot believe that we can attain that which they promise. Again, the missing link is belief. As the centurion believed that his servant would be healed, the servant, was, indeed, healed. As the bleeding woman believed that only a touch of Jesus’ robe would heal her, she was healed. As we believe that we will be awarded a prime parking space, that spot is ours.

Belief works. What we can believe, we will receive. And we receive that which we can believe. Tomorrow’s post will discuss how to stretch our imaginations, and with them our comfort zones, to enrich our lives.

Yesterday’s post (June 4, 2010) rhapsodized about the ripple effect created by abundance in our lives and in those whose lives we touch. While the effects of abundance can seem amazing, abundance is only our birthright. Unfortunately, most of us have been taught something else entirely as we were brought up on this earth, so we literally have to relearn that which we all knew to be true in Heaven. Today’s relearning concerns how to seek that which we desire. The “how” is to seek with the expectation that that which you seek will be given to you.

As reported in yesterday’s post, I was given an unexpected extra day off, with pay. Deciding to commit my day to guidance, I was led, as reported, to many destinations, the last of which was my friendly, local Wal-Mart. Of course, I had no initial plans to go there, but was led, nonetheless. Since my only destinations were the restroom and the video section, I did not pick up a shopping cart. Following my nose, I found the expected dvd (having had the title flashed in my mind as I waited in the supermarket line), then wondered where I was to go next. Next was the garden section. Off I went, with my one dvd firmly in hand. Creeping garden phlox was still to be had, in wonderful shades of light pink and powder blue, at wonderful sale prices. I tried to pick up several pots and quickly realized that I couldn’t carry all that I wanted without dirtying my beige shirt. There was nothing for it but to find a cart. Mentally, I put forth the desire for a cart, thanking my Angels for bringing me to a near-by cart, rather than a cart from the rack at the opposite end of the store.

Briskly and expectantly, I walked, looking for that nearest shopping cart. As I walked and looked about, I was struck by my attitude: I was seeking and walking as if I were going to find a cart at any moment. I was expecting to find a cart, I knew that I would find a cart, I had no question in my mind that a cart would come to me quickly and long before I reached the cart-rack at the opposite end of the store. I had no second thoughts about finding a cart. I was committed to finding a cart. I never questioned whether or not I deserved a cart, I just knew that I deserved one and that one would come to me. My attitude was one of optimistic expectation, knowing that I would obtain the object of my desire.

Those of you reading this are, no doubt, thinking to yourselves, “well, duh, of course she’s going to get a cart! After all, it’s just a shopping cart” Ah, my dear readers, there is another lesson. It is no more difficult for Heaven to grant you a shopping cart than it is for Heaven to grant you your heart’s dearest desire, if you seek with expectation. Read that last sentence again and allow it to sink in: it is no more difficult for Heaven to grant you a shopping cart than it is for Heaven to grant you your heart’s dearest desire, if you seek with expectation. The Course in Miracles says it thus: “there is no order of difficulty in miracles”.

This means that it is as easy for your Angels to give you a good parking space as it is for them to give you one million dollars, if you seek with expectation. Let that sink in, too. The difference in your receiving a good parking space vs. one million dollars lies in your attitude and in your ability to believe. It lies in your ability to seek with expectation. You can believe that you will be able to obtain a good parking space, just as easily as it was for me to believe that I would find a shopping cart. We are taught that receiving one million dollars is much more difficult, or that we might not be worthy, or that this might not be Heaven’s wish for us, etc., etc., all of which can result in our neither seeking, nor seeking with expectation. Our lack of obtaining one million dollars lies, then, in our belief that we should neither seek this nor seek this with expectation. While I use the example of a large amount of money, one could substitute anything, e.g., happy relationships, good health, an ideal weight, an ideal mate, a fulfilling occupation—all of it is within your grasp as you seek with expectation.

So get out there and seek to receive one million dollars with expectation and I’ll take a mere 10% for having taught you “how”. ­čÖé

In a nutshell:
1) thank the Universe for that which you seek
2) expect to receive it
3) act as if you have it already
4) count your blessings

In the previous post—June 1, 2010, “abundance is the fruit of gratitude”—your Angels gave instructions on how to ask for your desires effectively, teaching you to focus on abundance, rather than on lack. One of my faithful readers, Sonia, sent a message saying that in the midst of reading the post, she was blessed with the realization of how to effectively ask for help. She wrote that she immediately stopped reading and began saying “thank you, thank you, thank you” for this and that. With this sudden outpouring of thanks, she said she was filled with such a powerful feeling.

Her next message, not long after the first, I quote in its entirety: “Just had to come back and say \It worked!\… I was waiting for a contractor to show up all day yesterday and now again today. As I read your blog one of my \thank you’s\ was for him to show up by 10:00 today. He just phoned and said he will be here in 5 minutes! Yipee!!!” For those of you who have dealt with contractors (a busy bunch), her success would be categorized as amazing. Who knew that Sonia’s success with gratitude would have such far-reaching effects as to give me a free box of cotton-tipped applicators, aka “ear cleaners” at the supermarket today?

The story unfolds: I was scheduled to work today, as usual. And, as usual, I had no time before work to attend to much of anything. Consequently, dishes clogged the sink, papers for filing cluttered every available flat surface in the kitchen; ants swarmed in the open honey pot on the counter top; I tripped over the extra shoes on the floor; the printer decided to put itself off-line in the middle of an important document; and bills, due in two days, begged to be paid. There was no time! I felt overwhelmed with all of the tasks to be done—in addition to writing each day’s post—and absolutely no time and no help with which to do it all. Sonia’s comment (see above) came to me and I whined to myself about how she got the contractor over so quickly, but I couldn’t seem to get any help with all of my tasks. I gave my Angels the evil eye and asked them what I had ever done to them to have them treat me so badly as to give me all of this work and neither time nor help to accomplish it. Pulling myself together with a deep breath, I took the high road and my own advice, thanking those thankless Angels for giving me the help I needed to accomplish some of my myriad tasks.

With that, I went upstairs and started getting ready for work. Just then, the telephone rang. It was the hospital, letting me know that I could have the day off with pay, if I so chose. And why wouldn’t I choose? Ecstatically, I said “Yes!”, hung up the phone and jumped for joy. Here was an entire extra day in which to begin to get caught up with all of my work at home.

Now, with all of this extra time in my possession, I put myself entirely into the hands of guidance, going where I was led. Guidance took me to the post office, where a package awaited me from my brother. Next, I was led to the local supermarket, eight miles away. Parking the car, I noticed that my coin container had in it approximately 20 silver supermarket coins, which this particular market handed out in reward for certain amount spent. I had absolutely no use for these “coins” and routinely gave them to people who looked as if they would benefit from them. As I walked toward the door, two elderly ladies came out who seemed likely candidates. Approaching them with my hand held out, full of “coins”, I asked whether they could use them, since I would never do so. They readily agreed to take them and I gave them the whole lot. Turning away, I found two more in my pocket, so turned back and gave them those two, also. As I turned away to go into the market one of the ladies said, “Wow! Look at that!” Smiling to myself, I knew that they would put those “coins” to good use.

Into the market I went, returning some balsamic vinegar and picking up some yogurt. I picked a register and waited in line. The young woman in front of me was consulting with the cashier about some cotton-tipped applicators, pointing to the picture in a flier, which read, “buy one, get two free”. The cashier explained to the customer that she could get two free boxes, but she had only picked up one and would she like another? The customer looked askance and said, “what do I want with three boxes of ear cleaners?” I thought to myself that she could just put them away, because at some point all of the boxes would get used, but I kept my thoughts to myself. She declined the second box. The cashier playfully told the customer that I might like the second box. At this, the customer turned to me and offered me the second box, which I heartily accepted. Laughingly, I told the customer that I had just given some ladies my stack of silver supermarket coins and now I was getting a free box of ear cleaners in return. We laughed over this exchange, as the bag boy went to retrieve my free box of cotton-tipped applicators.

What a hoot! From ideas of gratitude for abundance to luring contractors to an unexpected day off to silver supermarket coins to a free box of cotton-tipped applicators, the ripples in the pond of abundance became wider and wider. These ripples are just the ones that I could see, extending outward from me. Doubtless, those ladies who received the coins probably extended the ripples of kindness and consideration, as did the young woman who so graciously gave me the box. Abundance truly begets abundance, and in the most unusual ways.

In a nutshell, abundance is the fruit of gratitude. The evidence for this is tricky, so please stay with your Angels as they attempt to explain to you Heaven’s reasoning.

You have undoubtedly heard that what you focus on expands. Translated, this means that what is continually in your thoughts shows up in your world. As an example, let us say that you have just purchased a brand-new silver Jeep SUV. You love your new car. Suddenly, as you’re on the road, the entire world seems to be driving silver Jeep SUVs. This happens often with new car owners and is dramatic evidence that that which is at the tips of your thoughts is also manifested in your world. If you had instead bought a red Mustang, say, then you would be seeing red Mustangs everywhere. This is not to say that other cars do not exist, but because of your intense focus on the car you love, you see that car everywhere reflected in the outside world.

So it is with gratitude. When your focus is on awe and praise for all the many blessings in your life, you open yourself to receive even more of them. By being grateful for little things like a refrigerator that works; your car, which runs; the hot- and cold-running water in your shower; the convenience of your washer and dryer; and any myriad of other elements in your life that function for your benefit, you are, however unwittingly, making room for even more blessings to come into your life. Your focus on abundance causes it to expand. Developing a habit of gratitude ensures a positive outlook which will result in abundance for you. And this happens because in focusing on gratitude, you are opening your mind to receive.

Conversely, when you focus on that which you lack, your focus on lack causes more lack in your life. I remember distinctly when this idea really penetrated my thick skull. In 1993, I was attending a gathering of like-minded, intuitive folks who were espousing the idea of abundance. They encouraged us in the audience to express our desires to our Guides. My old car was a total wreck and I could have done with a newer, more reliable one. So, I said to my Guides, “I want a new car,” thinking that this wording would bring a new car into my life. As I said those words in my head, a flash came to me that this choice of words would not bring the desired result, i.e., a new car. In fact, this choice of words would do nothing of the sort. The statement “I want a new car” rephrased is “I am lacking a new car”. In this unfortunate choice of words, I was focusing on the lack of a new car, which my Guides promptly filled by not producing a new one for me. The better phrasing would be “thank you for the new car in my life”. In this way, you are focusing on gratitude, that is, thanking your Guides for having brought this shiny, new car into your life. With this choice of words, you are also acting as if that which you seek is already in your life—a guaranteed way to open up to abundance. Picture it, feel it, see it, sense it, hear it, touch it in your mind and heartily thank your Angels and Guides for having brought it to you. This gratitude brings with it its fruit: abundance for you.

As discussed in The Secret (see Reading): “So how can there by any lack? It’s impossible. Your ability to think is unlimited, and so the things you can think into existence are unlimited. And so it is with everyone. When you truly know this, you are thinking from a mind that is aware of its own infinite nature.”