Archive for July 27th, 2010

Your Angels have encouraged you in several posts to dream big dreams:

April 27, 2010: “your guides vs. your comfort zone”
May 9, 2010: “as you dream it, so shall it be”
June 5, 2010: “seek with expectation”
June 6, 2010: “belief: the missing link”
June 7, 2010: “expand your belief”

They have given you concrete suggestions, as well as references, in how to accomplish this:

Dyer, Wayne, You’ll See It When You Believe It
Hill, Napoleon, Think and Grow Rich
Murphy, Joseph, The Power of Your Subconscious Mind

What they didn’t tell you (or me) was the possible pitfalls and roadblocks that one can encounter in this quest to push one’s mind to its limits of belief—because this is truly what dreaming big means: pushing your belief to its furthest limits.

To recap, on April 14, 2010, I, decided that I would dream not only big, but huge, in the fashion of Napoleon Hill. I have my cards specifically detailing my (current) Definite Purposes in life; I read them out loud each evening before retiring and each morning on arising, as prescribed; I read, out loud, the formula for self-confidence, and have been faithfully continuing in these practices, without fail, every day, whether I’m in the mood or not. I am the perfect picture of commitment and persistence. Yet, I can now tell you with sincere confidence that I have hit the wall. I am beset by doubts. I am overcome with fear. I am besieged by a tremendous lack of self-confidence. My common sense/logical mind is telling me to give up, grow up, and get a life. How can I go on with all of this negativity in my head, especially when there appears to be no concrete evidence that I am any nearer to attaining my two Definite Purposes in life than when I started?

Thankfully, my Angels know me very well and helped me realize that my dilemma is the same as that faced by a marathon runner, the Boston marathon, for example, which is a grueling 26-mile run (BTW, that’s too far for me to drive in my car, let alone run, for Heaven’s sake!). You start out fresh, after a good night’s sleep, your muscles are relaxed, you’re psyched for the trip. Surrounded by countless contestants, you start the run, setting an easy pace and watch your fellows drop by the wayside, one by one. But it’s a hot day, and by mile 13, you’re beginning to show some strain. Your breathing is heavy; your legs feel like weights; you’re thirsty, hot, tired, beset by insects sipping on your sweat (drat! did you forget the bug spray?); you have to pee, with no restroom in sight, you’re all alone on the road; and whose idea was this anyway ? That heady rush of self-confidence and euphoria at the start of the trip is turning in on itself and all you want to do is sit down at the side of the road and wait for someone to drive you home. Euphoria can also come as you near the end of your journey, because you know all of this pain and doubt and fear will end with a huge reward—the realization of your dreams. It’s in the middle, when you’re all alone, when you’re tired, hungry, thirsty, sore, and beset with no encouragement and no immediate reward that you’re the most vulnerable. It is at these times that you want to quit. Sure, you can tell yourself that a quitter never wins and a winner never quits, but you’re beset now, you’re doubting now, you’re afraid of both success and failure now. At these times, platitudes such as these seem to be all just philosophical mumbo-jumbo to keep you on a road that looks to be all pain and no reward.

It is at this crucial juncture that you must make the important decision to give up or to go on. You have put in hours of intense and committed effort which you might be sorely tempted to throw away. Now is the time to slow down, pace yourself, summon your reserves, and soldier on. Perhaps around the next bend will be a bystander who will cheer you on with encouragement, as my loyal reader, Sonia, has so unexpectedly done. Look each day for some little sign that a small step has been attained toward your goals. Consider, too, keeping a daily log of these signs and take time to re-read them to remind yourself that your Angels are helping you and are keeping you on track. And yes, now is the time to drag out those time-worn platitudes, really well summed up in the following verse:

“If you think you are beaten you are.
If you think you dare not, you don’t.
If you’d like to win, but think you can’t, it’s almost certain you won’t.

If you think you’ll lose, you’ve lost
For out in the world you’ll find,
Success begins with a fellow’s will—it’s all in the state of mind.

If you think you’re out-classed, you are,
You’ve got to think high to rise
You’ve got to be sure of yourself before you can ever win a prize.

Life’s battles don’t always go
To the stronger or faster man,
But sooner or late the one who wins is the one who thinks she can!”