Archive for October 16th, 2010

Many previous posts have dealt with the subject of expanding your creative ability by experimenting with manifesting dreams and goals outside of your comfort zone (see Archives). While people seem comfortable with the idea of dreaming and realize that they use it every day to bring things into their lives, I have become aware of and encountered some conventional wisdom in regard to dreaming that seems to go against actual experience. I am presenting this topic in an effort to understand the source and objective of this conventional wisdom. I am also very interested in readers’ thoughts on this post in particular. Perhaps your Angels will speak to you and through you to me, because just at present, they are not speaking to me, at least not on this topic.

In discussing dreams and dreaming big, for some reason, there persists among many people a kind of conviction that dreams ought not to be specific, but should be left open and up to the Universe to decide. For example, one would ask for an ideal mate but have no specific person in mind, allowing the Universe to pick the specific person. Another conviction I have encountered is if something is not manifested quickly, you’re on the wrong track and need to give up. Let us examine these issues of specificity and persistence.

In regard to specificity, my own experience has been at odds with most advice I receive. People tell me to avoid specificity, yet I find myself embracing it continuously in my daily life. For example, at age 9, I desired most of all to have my very own bicycle, a blue Schwinn. My parents were too poor to buy one, so I determined that I would wash dishes and do whatever it took to get that bicycle. Receiving a nickel for each time I did the dishes, I became the dishmaster, saving every cent and watching them mount up in my little savings book. It took several years, but one day, a new, beautiful blue Schwinn bicycle was in my possession. I had that bike until I outgrew it and began driving a car. For another example, in my early 20’s, I wanted a kitten, but knew it would be in my life at a later date. I knew that he would be a little male kitty. I cast about in my mind for a suitable name, desiring one that had dignity and was a little out of the ordinary. “Rutherford” came to mind one day. Perfect! Three years later, I had in my possession an 8-week-old male kitten, coal black, with green eyes, named “Rutherford”.

Most people I know also are very specific in their dreams, perhaps even without realizing it. One of my co-workers had planned each of her pregnancies, specifying even the sex of the babies, all of which came true. Her last pregnancy came a few months later than she had planned, but she did get pregnant and had a boy, just as was her dream. In shopping, too, for example, we are very specific in our grocery lists. Let us say that you need carrots. You go to the store, expecting to find carrots. The store is out of carrots. Do you then throw up your hands and say, “Oh, well. I guess the Universe doesn’t want me to have carrots because they’re not here. Guess I’ll use zucchini instead.”? Probably not. If you’re like me, you’ll drive to the next grocery store and find those *&#% carrots because, dad gum it, you need them for the chicken soup. Or say you’re out of shampoo and CVS is out of your favorite brand. Do you then throw up your hands and say, “Oh, well. I guess the Universe doesn’t want me to buy that shampoo. Guess I’ll buy some other brand instead.”? If you’re like me, you’ll drive to the next store to get the exact shampoo brand that you desire, because that is what is in your dream. If you examine your teensy, tiny everyday dreams, I believe you’ll find them to be quite specific. I believe, also, that most of you, like me, will move heaven and earth or alternatively, wait, until your specific dream can be realized. Why then, would your friends and acquaintances counsel you to avoid specificity in your choice of ideal mate and amount of money you wish to manifest? I am at a loss to understand this and hope that some of my readers can bring some insight to this question.

As to persistence, yesterday’s post (October 15, 2010 Persistence Pays) addressed the idea that if results aren’t seen quickly, you’re better off to abandon your dream because you’re obviously on the wrong road. Once again, my experience is contrary to conventional wisdom on the topic of persistence. In dreaming my little dream of owning a Schwinn bicycle, which, by the way, was a huge dream for a nine-year-old with no visible means of buying it, I was in it for the long haul. I washed dishes until I had dishpan hands and then washed some more. I saved every cent. I watched my nickels grow. After years of this persistence, not only was a Schwinn bicycle in my possession, but the blue Schwinn, not the red one or the green. I did not look around at day 5 of my dream, find no bicycle, and say, “Oh, well. I guess the Universe doesn’t want me to have a bike. Guess I’ll give it up.” I just kept at it, not looking back. With Rutherford, too, it was a full three years from the time I first thought of him until he actually came into my life. The surprise was his color. I didn’t expect him to be coal black, but then, I didn’t really have a color in mind. As for the outlot attached to my current house, which my neighbor absolutely refused to sell to me, that took a full eight years before the land was mine. In none of these cases was success immediate, but required time and persistence to achieve. Even Thomas Edison had a bout with persistence. It took 10,000 tries before he found the right filament for the lightbulb, a filament that would stay intact and not burn up immediately. Where would we be today if he had thrown up his hands at try #52 and said, “Oh, well. I guess the Universe doesn’t want me to find a filament. Guess I’ll just put up with candles.”?

There are bazillions more examples in both specificity and persistence that I could mention and even more that each of you can find in your everyday lives. I am very interested in your input and thoughts about the dichotomy between actual behavior and the current conventional wisdom on these two topics. My hope is that you will share with each other and with me, shedding the light that Thomas Edison so thoughtfully gave us through his specificity and persistence.