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Most of us can easily become caught up in life’s busyiness and feel overwhelmed with all of the demands and projects that come our way. I was in just such a mind set a short time ago, feeling frustrated, incompetent, and inadequate. I came to work seething with evil thoughts and mad as a hornet at my Angels who keep piling on the expectations, without any visible aid or encouragement on their part. They don’t have to live here on this forsaken planet. All they have to do is give us orders, while they watch us struggle to carry them out, because they have no concept of how difficult life can be. I was ripped.

Grumbling discontentedly to myself, with a huge dose of self-pity, I happened to overhear part of a conversation in the corner. One of my co-workers, J, was expounding on his favorite subject: doing things little by little. As I heard the words “little by little”, I could feel my left ear “grow” toward the sound of his voice, which is certain indication that what he was saying was a message from Heaven. Stopping, then, to listen, I felt both of my ears perk up. Both ears involved has never before happened to me, confirming further that our Angels had a special message for us, which they were relaying through J. He was speaking the words that they were putting in his mouth, words which would help us in some way. Turning my full attention to his words, I eaves-dropped on his conversation.

J was explaining that most people get overwhelmed with their lives, with all of the things expected of them. Instead of tackling any project, they just give up. They vegetate in front of the tube, or escape in some other way, convinced that they do not have what it takes to get ahead.

“What people don’t understand is that they don’t have to do a project all at once. Just do a little every day and pretty soon, the thing is done.” J said that everyone has the same 24 hours in day, but it’s all in how you use those precious 24 hours.

Inspired by those words, and understanding their full significance both for me and for you, I went home after work and began picking away at a seemingly huge project. I finished it in about a week, working a few minutes each day. What had seemed like climbing Mt. Everest, translating 28 pages of esoteric Hungarian into idiomatic American English, was done in less time than I could have imagined. Amazing. As I was tackling this project little by little and was so excited to see it nearing completion, I called one of my friends to share my joy with her. Listening to me rhapsodize, she remembered a friend who has developed the habit of tackling a project little by little. His advice was not to look at the whole, huge project, but to tackle the edges, little by little. His motto you have read above, “Inch by inch, life’s a cinch”. Small steps, consistently maintained and with persistence, result in finished projects in an amazingly short period of time.

Your Angels have addressed this subject previously through several posts (Archives). Recommended reading is Robert Maurer’s little book, One Small Step Can Change Your Life. So why must we keep re-inventing the wheel? Is it perhaps because we’re all too human and can so easily lose touch with the larger picture when the going gets tough? Especially when life seems especially tough, we can remember to work smart so that inch by inch, life becomes a cinch.

In looking over the posts channeled by your Angels over the past year, I am struck by how many of these posts concern the subject of attitude and belief. The overall message is: that which you believe manifests in your life. To examine your belief system, look about you at your environment, for it is there that you see the fruits of your creation. To change your fruits, change your beliefs (see Archives).

In regard to belief, many of my loyal readers know that I am still struggling with changing my attitudes and beliefs in certain areas, with spotty success. Just last Monday, on 1/11/11, my own Angels sent me a very positive message, which I wish to share with you. As always with my Angels, their message has a large element of teaching and learning connected with it, making it of general interest.

On that day, 1/11/11, I had driven to a particular department store to return some fleece sheets given me as a Christmas present by my sister, Sue. These sheets had been labeled “Full”, but when I put them on the bed, found them to be “Queen”. Too big for the bed and for my pillows, they were nevertheless so warm and cozy that I was not readily willing to part with them. After some discussion with Sue, she persuaded me to return them, saying that she would send me the correct size. So, on that Monday, I rode to the store with the intention of returning those comfy fleece sheets.

The store offered me the choice of an exchange or store credit. Surprised that they had fleece sheets (I had looked for them the year before and could not find them), on a whim I asked where they were located. “On a kiosk near the Men’s Department”, said the clerk. Taking my store credit with me, I strolled through the store on my way to an exit. Although I had no plans to pick up the “Full” sheets, curiosity got the best of me and I began looking for the Men’s Dept. and the kiosk on which the alleged sheets allegedly were displayed. Found the Men’s Dept. Found the kiosk. Found the fleece sheets. Found the “Full” sized sheets. Found the packaging to be smaller than the “Queen” size and considered picking up a set, but didn’t because my sister had said that she would send me replacements.

Turning my back on the sheets, I began walking toward the exit, which was in a direct line with the sheet kiosk. In no special hurry, I meandered past a rack full of hanging stuff, some long, some short, some fluffy, some smooth—all so nondescript that nothing caught my attention except the sheer quantity of it. For some unknown reason, I stopped at the sight of all this stuff, none of which had the slightest interest for me, yet which held me fast. Almost in a trance, I walked around the rack to the other side. I could not have told you why I did so, since that, too was filled with quantities of hanging stuff. In this trance, I walked slowly to nearly the midpoint of the display, my gaze at about 3-4 feet above the floor. At this position, my gaze found a huge, wooden plaque, approximately 18 inches wide by at least 6 inches tall, made of rough, brown wood. Slowly my eyes moved upward to encounter the phrase, “You Can Achieve It”. Jolted, I continued my gaze upward and found the phrase, “If You Believe It”.

I stared, dumbfounded. The phrase, “You Can Achieve It” was in direct answer to my unspoken question of whether I could achieve my stated goal, which I had just the day before given up. I had actually mentally said good-bye to the man who seemed my ideal mate, thinking that he would never be attracted to or interested in me. Now here was my Angels’ message straight from Heaven, written in English, in huge white letters on a huge, brown, ugly, wooden plaque, so big that I couldn’t possibly miss it.

I stared at this wooden plaque, taking the message in, first reading it top to bottom and then bottom to top. Slowly, slowly, as my reasoning faculties returned, I became aware that my Angels were sending me the most powerful message to date that they had ever sent. They were going to a lot of trouble to tell me that yes, indeed, I am able to achieve my desire for my ideal mate and yes, they have every intention of sending me my heart’s desire. There is a hold-up, however, and that hold-up is me. Specifically, the hold-up is my inability to believe that he would be interested in coming into my life. They were telling me that I am able to achieve my desire: the first words I encountered were “You Can Achieve It”—in direct answer to my continuing question of whether my desire was even possible. They were also telling me that in order to achieve my desire, I must do my part, which is to believe that this can come into my life.

My Angels were deadly serious. They are willing to send him to me; they are waiting to send him to me; they are wanting to send him to me, but they cannot, because I have been unable to muster sufficient belief that this dream can actually happen to me. [Remember that sufficient belief is that amount of belief which is the size of a grain of mustard (see June 6, 2010 Belief: the missing link)]. All of this realization washed over me in a profound spirit of conviction. I realized that my Angels were my friends and truly desire to aid me, but they can only go so far. It now becomes my responsibility to fulfill my part of the bargain, which is to believe with my whole heart, body, and soul. Interestingly, I had no goosebumps, no shivers, no thrills, just a deep, solid knowing the content and extent of their message. Playtime’s over, boys and girls, time to get serious.

In some shock that my dream will actually materialize, I spent the next day mulling over the Angel message and digging out from the two feet of snow that Mother Nature had so generously dumped on us. On 1/13/11, on my way to work, I examined closely the idea of belief and how I had been skirting this issue, giving lip-service to it, but not really believing that I could have my ideal mate. I examined closely my attitudes and beliefs. What were my sticking points? What did I not believe? What could I believe? In what form could I believe it? What would it take for me to believe it? How could I actually convince myself to believe it?

With Angelic guidance, I was able to sort through my hopes, fears, and terrors, trying to find a way to believe that someone could find me attractive. I decided that I could believe that I can be cute. Not glamorous, but cute. Perky and cute. I can believe that I am able to be charming. I can believe that I have a delightful and unpredictable sense of humor. I can believe that this combination of cuteness and charm and humor can be used by the Holy Spirit to provide an attractive aura around me, which my future ideal mate will find irresistible. And in thinking along these line, I realized that I have a high IQte. This last had me laughing out loud, which brought me to the next realization: someone with a high IQte is approachable, which is in itself attractive.

After this intense soul-searching and honest appraisal of my strengths, I am able to believe wholeheartedly that they, along with the magic of the Holy Spirit, will bring my ideal mate into my life. This was hard work, having to face my terrors, but how could I turn my back on my willing Angels? How could I turn away their generous gift of an ideal mate, which they are ready to hand to me if I will only do my part? Am I so lazy that I will use the excuse of “it’s too hard”, or “it’s too scary”, or “I’m not worth it”, or other such nonsense? Hardly. I’ll rise to the occasion if it’s the last thing I do, especially for the promise of my ideal mate.

I sincerely hope that you can find strength, hope, and comfort in this little example of Angelic aid and guidance. Perhaps you, too, have some secret desire that you wish fulfilled but believe that you cannot achieve because of specious reasons (and they are all specious). Decide on your dream. Search out those blocks to your belief. Find ways to believe, ways that ring true for you that will allow this dream into your life. Your Angels are more than willing to meet you halfway.

In the last post (January 3, 2011 time enough), your Angels explored the concept of time in the human struggle to meet all of the demands placed on us by both earthly and other dimensional responsibilities. In that post, your Angels showed how viewing time differently can result in more efficient living. They now present a corollary to the time question, for those of us who feel to be overburdened with work.

Our goal-oriented society expects rewards and accolades for achieving a goal. The folk saying goes, “it’s not whether you win or lose, it’s how you play the game”. That saying really means, “winning is everything; losing is nothing; and no one cares how you play the game”. We are trained since childhood to reach for goals: that grade of “A” on the report card; being picked for the team; getting into the college of our choice; making a respectable salary; buying our dream house; having the most friends on Facebook, and so on. We strive, strive, strive to attain that which we do not have in the hopes of greater happiness and contentment. Achieving all of our dreams can be an awful lot of work and we can feel unduly burdened by some of the difficulties which we encounter on our way to our dreams.

Your Angels respectfully suggest that, as with time, viewing differently the work we do daily can ease that overburdened feeling, thus erasing any concomitant resentment. From our earthly societal point of view, the finished product of our work, our goal, is the entire point of work. From the spiritual dimension, however, the process of work, rather than the finished product, is of utmost importance. It is as we strive toward our goal, problem-solving, working in cooperation with others, finding ways to cooperate with these others, coming up with creative solutions to our roadblocks, backing up and then forging ahead again, that we grow in grace, wisdom, and experience. I remember well one excellent example of striving advocated by Edgar Cayce, also called the Sleeping Prophet, which I did not understand at the time, but which has stayed with me. Now, understanding that not the goal but the process is important, I am able, finally, to understand the message he was sending to his questioner.

Edgar Cayce (1877-1945) had been brought up in the South in a conservative Christian home. He had a modest, simple upbringing and was himself a modest, simple man until one day he fell asleep and began diagnosing people’s medical conditions. He advised specific cures, and with these cures, healed disease states usually given up as hopeless by the current medical professionals. After many years of giving only medical information, he began to give what he called “Life Readings” which truly rocked his and his subjects’ worlds. In one of these cases, a woman had come to him complaining that her husband and children just couldn’t seem to get along. She requested help in bringing harmony and love to her warring family. Edgar Cayce gave her no such help. All he told her was that yes, he sees that she has been striving to bring love and harmony into the family, that yes, she has had little to no success thus far, but that she was absolutely doing the right thing. He encouraged her to continue to do as she had done, striving as before to bring peace to the home. He had no further advice for her and ended the session. After reading that I was left with a feeling of abandonment. She had asked for a solution to her problem, a way to reach her goal, and all he told her was to keep doing what she had been doing. With my goal-oriented, American-influenced efficiency, this seemed like no answer at all. What does he mean, keep doing what she has been doing? What she has been doing has not been working (she has not reached her goal) and it seems like she has been wasting her time because she has not reached her goal (efficiency, people, above all, efficiency, because time is money!).

Now, understanding that it is in the process of work that we grow toward our maximum potential, it is clear that Edgar Cayce was encouraging her to use this process to bring the love, peace, and harmony to her family that she so dearly desired. Through creative thinking; through striving to work out interpersonal differences; through kindness, patience, and long-suffering; through small steps made at small intervals, she could reach her goal, but she had to give up the idea of the goal being paramount. Next, she had to give up the idea that somehow she was a failure at creating harmony because she had not reached her goal. Indeed, never once had Cayce chastened her, berating her for failing at her stated goal of bringing peace and harmony to the family life. Instead, he fairly nearly congratulated her on her efforts thus far, encouraging her to continue them, because she was on the right track.

Just as with this example, we can learn to shift our awareness away from our goals and center it on the process we are employing. We can also remind ourselves that in the Spirit dimension, time is not money, since in the Spirit dimension neither time nor money exist. It’s OK that hubby has not taken out the garbage for 10 years straight without you having had to remind him. You are learning to be creative in your requests, you are engaging him in positive, responsible behaviors, and you are learning to keep your temper, thus growing in patience, kindness, and long-suffering. It’s not your concern that he will rot in Hell because he’s a wastrel who won’t pull his share of the load. You are doing the right thing, continuing to grow in awareness and spiritual power.

So, let us not seek to lighten our load by wishing for an early retirement or to win the Mega Millions, or even to attract a sugar daddy. Give thanks that you are still young and strong and that you have this wonderful opportunity before you to grow in love. Orison Swett Marden has a wonderful outlook on the subject of striving, and I quote from his book, He Can Who Thinks He Can:

“We are so constituted that we make our greatest efforts and do our best work while struggling to attain that for which the heart longs. It is practically impossible for most people to make their utmost exertions without imperative necessity for it. It is the constant necessity to improve our condition that has urged us onward and developed the stamina and sterling character of the whole race. History abounds in stories of failures… who started with wealth; and, on the other, it is illuminated with examples of those who owe everything to the spur of necessity.” p. 238

“We did not always see, at the time, that what we got incidentally on the way up from poverty was infinitely better and more precious than the thing we were aiming for—a living, a competence; that the development of a strong man/woman in the mighty struggle with necessity was a thousand times more valuable than the living, the money, or the property gained.” pp. 242-243

Your Angels are vitally interested that you understand the extreme importance of the role of belief in your life. They have addressed this idea before in several posts:

June 5, 2010: “seek with expectation”
June 6, 2010: “belief: the missing link”
June 7, 2010: “expand your belief”
July 31, 2010: “thoughts are things”

Yet, today, they again made it clear to me just how important that little idea of belief is, for that which you believe will become present for you in your physical world. That which you do not believe will not manifest itself in your immediate physical world, even though it is present in the larger physical world. As is their habit, your Angels have a story to illustrate their advice.

An acquaintance of mine, Zelda, has an issue with abundance. She is unable to manifest it. In particular, she is unable to manifest green energy, which we know by its other name, money. In addition, she is unable, at present, to see how her beliefs contribute to this seeming inability to manifest abundance. Several years ago, she called to lament her lack of funds. Her Angels presented her with several suggestions, all of which would result in an increase in her funds. One of these suggestions involved claiming a balance of nearly $3,000 held by a local bank, in her name, in a “lost accounts” fund. She seemed excited by this prospect. I heard little of any progress in this direction but was not surprised, since she has honed procrastination to a fine art.

In a recent conversation with Zelda, she again lamented her low bank account. Inquiring about the “lost funds” held by the bank, she became very defensive and told me that she could not get the funds. The defensive/aggressive tone of her voice tipped me off to a deeper issue. With gentle probing by her Angels, we uncovered her major obstacle. In her own words, “I don’t believe that I can get that money. It doesn’t seem real to me.”

Aha! Now we are at the crux of the matter: she doesn’t believe; and acquisition does not seem real to her. In other words, while intellectually she can hear the words that $3,000 is waiting for her at a bank, emotionally that money might as well be on the Moon or in a movie or in the next galaxy over. She is not able to feel that this money belongs to her and that it will be sitting in her very own savings account in her lifetime. That explains why she has not pursued it, why she was put off so easily by any attempts to pursue it, why she is not pursuing it at the present time, and why she has no plans to pursue it. To her belief system, that money does not exist, so why bother to pursue it? Thus, this money is present in the physical realm, but not present in her immediate physical world.

My fervent hope is that all of you, dear readers, are shaking your heads in wonder and nodding them at the same time. Shaking your heads at the futility of her belief system, yet nodding knowingly because you know that changing her belief will result in manifestation of this $3,000 in her bank account. Many people say, “I’ll believe it when I see it”. Dr. Dyer knows that You’ll See It When You Believe It (see Reading). So how can Zelda help herself? She can become aware of her belief system (see November 15, 2010, It’s all about Awareness). Once she has become aware of this belief, she can choose to think differently. Once she thinks differently, she can choose to believe that this money is real, that it is hers, and then take steps to claim it, thus bringing it into her immediate physical reality.

Your Angels know that belief systems are often ingrained, ruts worn deep by many years and decades of consistent wrong thinking. Becoming aware of those belief systems is a huge accomplishment in itself. Once an ingrained belief is identified, you might have to just sit with it for a while—sometimes years—looking at it, understanding it, making peace with it, before you can move on to replacing it. With Zelda, to her eternal credit, she was able today to hear herself admit that she does not believe the money to be real. Once she realizes this important belief, she can begin to process it and choose to believe differently. She may continue to choose to believe the money is not real, but somehow, once a belief is exposed, it doesn’t have the same power over us that it had before we were aware of it.

Your Angels hope that you will take this little story to heart, make it your own, and start to become aware of your own belief systems which get in your way. What belief is holding you back? Do you believe yourself to be unlovable? Do you believe that you must suffer? Do you believe that you must be poor? Do you believe that life is hopeless, so why try? Ferret out those harmful beliefs. Know that your life is only as rich as your belief system, then trust that your Angels will show you the way to an abundance of riches, however you define them.

In many previous posts, your Angels have been giving you reasons to trust them and their divine guidance. They know you best and they have your best interests in mind. You cannot know this, though, unless you begin to trust them in the daily affairs of your life. Involving them in this way can lead you to interesting experiences, as I discovered within the past 18 hours. It started in this way:

Having gone to bed at 2:30 am after a grueling day at work, I was in deep slumber when the phone rang at 3:00 am. It was my sister, commanding me to call one of our relatives in Hungary. She would not say why, just kept repeating, “Call Brian”. Grumbling, I groggily called Brian in Hungary (it was morning there). Cheerily he informed me that he wanted us to join him and his father for four days at Thanksgiving in New Orleans. He would pay our way entirely: airfare, lodging, car, meals. I looked at the phone in a stupor, with a sinking heart, realizing that I was scheduled to work for the three days after Thanksgiving and good luck trying to find someone to cover for those days. Negative thinking to the max. I said as much to Brian, apologetically, but with regret, thinking that this would never work. Something else took over my brain, though, something light and positive. It said, “I’m a little sleepy, Brian, so let me get back to you in the morning after I’ve had a chance to talk to my sister and look at my schedule.” Brian was not put off by this, just kept tempting me with how much fun we would have, that we would stay in the French Quarter, and so on. In other words, preaching to the converted. I hung up the phone and went back to bed, with visions of mufalatas, beignets, and chicory coffee dancing in my head.

After a fevered night’s sleep, with all of this temptation before me and seemingly no way to indulge it, I awoke and consulted with my sister. She had the feeling that things would go well and that my Angels would find coverage for me for those three days. After a few bad moments, I told my Angels that whatever they decided was all right with me, that my will was theirs and to make my will theirs. With that, I put the matter out of my mind and went to work.

There, the matter had so slipped my mind that it was off the radar. Somehow my mind returned to the subject, anyway. I offered extra work to many people, without success. On a whim, I called my sister to say that I would be available to go to New Orleans after all, if she would so inform Brian. She laughed; she shrieked; we celebrated on the phone, anticipating the fun we would have in New Orleans on an all-expenses paid trip. We both felt as if we were princesses in wonderland, with such good fortune before us. Keep in mind, though, that I still hadn’t found coverage for those three naughty little days after Thanksgiving. But, I was acting as if this mini-vacation would actually occur. Then, suddenly, one of the per diem nurses appeared before me. I offered her those days and she accepted! In a heartbeat, my desire to participate in this adventure was realized, going from earlier despair to ecstasy that someone would actually work for me. All because I trusted those crafty Angels. Now, I just have to decide what to pack…..

Let us examine this little story for all of those vital elements which made for success:

The offer came quickly and suddenly, out of the blue—this is a hallmark of the movement of the Holy Spirit. An opportunity will appear before you quickly, an offer you can accept because you are ready for success at every moment, because you are accustomed to trusting your Angels.

You recognize the opportunity because you have experience trusting your Angels and they have given you solid advice in the past.

You act as if the opportunity is truly yours, trusting that your Angels will work out the details. It was a real act of faith for me to instruct my sister to contact Brian with a “yea” when I had not yet found coverage. I decided, though, to trust my Angels. I acted as if I had those days off and, within the space of a few minutes, did, indeed, have those days off.

You move through the fear and doubt; you act in spite of it. Yes, I was the teensiest bit nervous that no one would work for me, but I acted in spite of that fear and my faith was rewarded.

Of course, this is the advanced trust in Angels. I have spent much time listening to them in the small things that seemed to make no sense: take your umbrella, even though it looks like no rain is coming your way; buy the green peppers, even though you think you don’t need them; turn down a different road than you normally go; drive to Wal-Mart even if you can’t come up with a reason; call your friend when you get the push to contact her, and so on. These little acts of trust on your part will put you in a position to be ready for instantaneous success when something really big comes along, such as an all-expense paid trip to New Orleans for a long weekend, or that dreamboat that you’ve been drooling over, or that new red Porsche with the turbo drive. Keep at it, my dear and faithful readers. Keep listening to your Angels, follow their advice, especially in the small things, so that you, too, will reap their rewards, those rewards that they have specifically selected for you.