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“Everybody falls. It’s all in how you get back up.” These were the words of a beautiful, sweet-natured young woman, just 34 years old, who had been injured several years ago while snow-boarding. Interestingly, she had already been snow-boarding with friends earlier that day on a different mountain, in a different state, and was on her way home. They decided to stop for one last run on one last mountain. She knew that she should not do it; that she was tired, but she allowed herself to be persuaded. Heedless to her intuition—her internal warning center—she snowboarded anyway, and broke her neck. Now, multiple surgeries later, she was my patient for several days.

In caring for her, I was struck by her patience, perseverance, and tolerance for pain and annoyance that all comes with having surgery and being stuck in the hospital. She patiently endured all that we had to do to her and really only asked for help when she needed it, cooperating with her care for her greater benefit.

When it came time for her to be discharged, I found to my surprise that the Angels had arranged for me to take her to the lobby in a wheelchair, while her husband went ahead to get the car. While waiting in the lobby, I was moved to comment on her patience with her situation and the graciousness with which she was coping with her current lot in life. She told me that it hadn’t been easy, but she has learned to take one day at a time.

“And,” she said, “everybody falls. It’s all in how you get up.”

Her words gave me chills and I realized that I was in the presence of someone who had much to offer us with her simple words. It is, indeed, true that everybody falls. All of us have had bigger or larger problems with which to cope, some of them devastating. Life does it to everybody, no matter how rich, poor, well, ill, beautiful or fugly, fat or thin. What really contributes to our growth is how we get back up. Do we whine and cry, shaking our fist at an uncaring Universe, feeling very picked-on and abandoned? (this one is my personal favorite) Do we, like this young woman, do what we need to do, giving gratitude for what we have and taking one day at a time? (I’m working toward this…) Do we blame anyone and everyone for our misfortune, conveniently forgetting that we create everything and everyone around us?

After multiple surgeries, this young woman has had plenty of opportunities for getting back up graciously and it truly shows. She radiated a sweet kindness that is not often seen with people who have been in constant pain. Perhaps this is what Edgar Cayce had in mind as an effect when he counseled us to be patient and persevering, and, above all, long-suffering. Since Life gives us plenty of opportunities to be long-suffering, we may as well make the best of it. This, in turn, will bring out the best in us and, surprisingly, in those around us. Getting back up with dignity and graciousness is what it’s all about. I hope to remember that the next time I’m face-down in some situation. :)

My Angels have given me important information in the form of an allegory, which needs to be shared with all of you who might be suffering in areas that don’t seem to change. Not to bore you with the details of my sometimes pathetic life, I will only say that it has two amazingly stuck places. Think miles of tangled string. Think boulders that won’t budge. Think frustration to the max. Since learning about Ho o’ponopono (see Links, Dr. Hew Len) last October (2010), I have faithfully been practicing this mantra to no apparent avail, thus far. Yet, the message from Heaven was clear: persist in this direction for positive resolution of those stuck places. How was the allegory presented? Read on, dear Readers. This might speak to you as well.

Last August, I purchased a pendulum-driven banjo clock that chimes on the half-hour and on the hour. It has two places to wind it, one for the clock and one for the chimes. The chimes winder is finicky and requires some care in order for it to work. Not long ago, I would the chimes up too tightly and it wouldn’t chime at all. Usually when this is the case, the clock must be taken to a repair shop because a spring wound too tight will not unwind by itself—it just stays wound. Not having a clock repair shop even remotely close by, I decided to apply to Angelic aid, instructing my Angels to fix the chimes. Surprisingly (?!), the chimes worked for a few hours, then again stopped. I had the impression that I should let the clock wind down over a week, then rewind only the clock portion, not even inserting the key into the chimes winder. This I did, and noticed that the chimes worked again for a short while. Emboldened, I gingerly tried the chimes winder and got it too tight again. Drats. You would think that I would learn. But noooooooo.

Again I instructed my Angels to fix the chimes. Again, the clock chimed for a few hours, after which it stopped chiming. Again, I let the clock run down all the way, then rewound it, this time not touching the chimes winder at all. The chimes did not work at all, no way, no how.

Even though it seemed that I was having no success with this clock at all, I nevertheless had a totally positive feeling that at some point in time, the chimes would again work. With this expectation (see also June 5, 2010 Seek with Expectation), I decided that this week I would again just wind up the clock, leave the chimes winder alone, and once again instruct my Angels to fix the chimes so that they will work. I did as I had planned. In the process of winding the clock, the chimes began to fitfully sound, bonging out 11 o’clock. I was in shock. These chimes hadn’t sounded in more than a week, and to my knowledge, they were still wound too tightly. They have been bonging for two days so far, unwinding themselves to the point where they will be fully operational very soon.

Living through this, I realized that my Angels were giving me information about those two huge stuck areas in my life. The message I got was that those places would slowly unravel and smooth out with patience, persistence, and the expectation of a positive outcome. Beyond having the expectation that they will be ironed out, I must also stop visiting them (i.e., stop fiddling with the chimes winder), stop looking and listening to see whether they are fixed yet, and occupy myself with seemingly unrelated matters (i.e., wind the clock only). These seemingly unrelated matters are somehow connected with the stuck places and will allow them to be resolved. The message is really clear that by following these instructions, my stuck places will be history—possibly in the near future. Now comes my challenge: practicing not visiting them, moving away from them toward seemingly unrelated matters—which, nevertheless, will bring about resolution of the stuck places. Sure, I’ll do it. I have nothing to lose except the tangled mess of these two areas. I’ll let you know how things work out.

Most of us can easily become caught up in life’s busyiness and feel overwhelmed with all of the demands and projects that come our way. I was in just such a mind set a short time ago, feeling frustrated, incompetent, and inadequate. I came to work seething with evil thoughts and mad as a hornet at my Angels who keep piling on the expectations, without any visible aid or encouragement on their part. They don’t have to live here on this forsaken planet. All they have to do is give us orders, while they watch us struggle to carry them out, because they have no concept of how difficult life can be. I was ripped.

Grumbling discontentedly to myself, with a huge dose of self-pity, I happened to overhear part of a conversation in the corner. One of my co-workers, J, was expounding on his favorite subject: doing things little by little. As I heard the words “little by little”, I could feel my left ear “grow” toward the sound of his voice, which is certain indication that what he was saying was a message from Heaven. Stopping, then, to listen, I felt both of my ears perk up. Both ears involved has never before happened to me, confirming further that our Angels had a special message for us, which they were relaying through J. He was speaking the words that they were putting in his mouth, words which would help us in some way. Turning my full attention to his words, I eaves-dropped on his conversation.

J was explaining that most people get overwhelmed with their lives, with all of the things expected of them. Instead of tackling any project, they just give up. They vegetate in front of the tube, or escape in some other way, convinced that they do not have what it takes to get ahead.

“What people don’t understand is that they don’t have to do a project all at once. Just do a little every day and pretty soon, the thing is done.” J said that everyone has the same 24 hours in day, but it’s all in how you use those precious 24 hours.

Inspired by those words, and understanding their full significance both for me and for you, I went home after work and began picking away at a seemingly huge project. I finished it in about a week, working a few minutes each day. What had seemed like climbing Mt. Everest, translating 28 pages of esoteric Hungarian into idiomatic American English, was done in less time than I could have imagined. Amazing. As I was tackling this project little by little and was so excited to see it nearing completion, I called one of my friends to share my joy with her. Listening to me rhapsodize, she remembered a friend who has developed the habit of tackling a project little by little. His advice was not to look at the whole, huge project, but to tackle the edges, little by little. His motto you have read above, “Inch by inch, life’s a cinch”. Small steps, consistently maintained and with persistence, result in finished projects in an amazingly short period of time.

Your Angels have addressed this subject previously through several posts (Archives). Recommended reading is Robert Maurer’s little book, One Small Step Can Change Your Life. So why must we keep re-inventing the wheel? Is it perhaps because we’re all too human and can so easily lose touch with the larger picture when the going gets tough? Especially when life seems especially tough, we can remember to work smart so that inch by inch, life becomes a cinch.